Merry Christmas!!
My wife hates surprises.
Which makes it hard to give her a gift.
In this season of giving,
she, like most women,
tends to shoulder the majority of the burden
of the planning, budgeting, buying, wrapping.
As a modern husband,
who wants to share the mental load
and be a part of all that planning, budgeting,
buying, and wrapping,
I find it hard to keep up.
While I am still thinking
about what might make a good gift
for some relative we barely know,
packages arrive at the front door,
and are wrapped and under the tree
before I have even made a list.
This week,
I tried to surprise her
by taking an opportunity to sneak away
to buy her a gift.
We don’t normally exchange gifts with each other
at Christmas,
so I knew it would be a real surprise.
Now, our family uses Life360—
an app on our phones that shares our location
with the other members of the family.
We started using the app
after a panic in the summer,
when Jennifer missed a meeting
we were supposed to attend together,
I couldn’t reach her by phone,
and didn’t find her at work.
Turned out, her phone was on silent
and a meeting with a parishioner
had taken longer than I’d expected
or she realized.
None of which
had prevented me from picturing her
lying dead in a ditch somewhere.
We decided to use the app
to help us avoid any future panic.
So, I knew if I was going to surprise her
I would have to turn off my location.
I drove to the place I said I was going,
turned off the location setting on my phone,
went to pick up her gift,
turned my location back on,
and drove home,
feeling like James Bond in a Santa hat.
Later that night,
Jennifer casually asked,
“We aren’t buying gifts for each other,
right?”
While in my head I tried to wordsmith
a diplomatic answer
that more obfuscation and less outright lie,
she followed up with,
“I got a notification
that you’d turned off you location
when you went out.
I hope you weren’t buying me something.”
So much for my James Bond moment.
Most of the things that surprise us
during this season
fill us with gratitude,
with wonder and awe,
with love and kinship.
We look forward to the reactions we get
from the gifts we give,
hoping for a happy tear,
a squeal of delight,
or a hearty laugh.
But for many,
that hoped for reaction
can cause a sense of dread,
a deep anxiety at meeting an expectation,
instead of a pleasant mutual suspense.
Sometimes surprises
feel more like interruptions,
like when the gift you ordered 6 weeks ago,
still hasn’t arrived
and Christmas is tomorrow.
Or when the unexpected phone call
stole your attention from the oven
and you burned the cookies you said you’d bring
to the party you would have already been late for.
Or when grief is stealing all the joy and wonder
from the season,
because the lights seem dimmer,
the food less appealing,
and the company more of an imposition
in the absence of a loved-one recently lost.
There is something of this sense of interruption
in each of our readings for this night.
Isaiah tells of a people accustomed to the darkness
startled by the appearance of a great light.
The authority of their oppressors
has be wrested away
and laid on the shoulders of a baby,
whose titles and lineage are longer than he is.
The good news of the interruption,
the letter to Titus tells us,
comes making demands,
requiring self-control, righteousness, godliness;
purifying and redeeming a people
who will be zealous for good deeds.
Sounds like a fun party, huh?
This good news even interrupted Advent this year.
Today should have been Advent IV,
the day of Love.
We should have heard of the angel’s annunciation to Mary,
who interrupted her engagement
with a pregnancy.
But instead, because of the calendar,
Advent was interrupted by Christmas Eve,
where we hear of the lives of Roman subjects
interrupted by a census;
the journey of Joseph and Mary
interrupted by a sudden birth;
the shepherds’ third-shift interrupted
by angels’ singing glad tidings of great joy
with such abruptness
they have to start their message with
“don’t be afraid.”
And for all the joy and excitement of a new baby,
any parent will tell you,
that caring for a newborn
is all about managing a series of interruptions,
feeding, changing, lulling to sleep,
each instance announced and punctuated
by a sudden, startling cry.
A baby requires a change of your whole life,
a rearrangement of all your priorities,
a reallocation of all your resources,
a renegotiation of all your relationships.
Everything changes.
And being perfectly honest,
these changes feel more like an interruption
than a pleasant surprise.
We spend our time in Advent each year
listening to the longing of God’s people
for the coming of ultimate justice,
for the arrival of the transcendent God of the cosmos
to come to us, abide with us,
to destroy all evil and rid the world
of sin and death.
But the transcendent God of the darkness and silence,
of patience and longing,
is also the God of imminence,
arising from within creation like a burst of light,
like labor pains,
like a baby’s cry.
God comes to us where we are,
not waiting for us to clean up or grow up,
but hoping for our consent to be interrupted,
to be transformed from within.
Our core values,
hospitality, generosity, and solidarity,
are not some slogan or mission statement
we have adopted.
They are the whole path,
the path of incarnation,
God welcoming us—
the path of divinization,
God uniting with us—
the path of transformation,
God in solidarity with us.
This is the path of Love,
the path toward God,
and God’s path toward us.
Welcoming the interruptions
as the surprising imminence of God
with and within us,
is the beginning of spirituality,
the beginning of faith.
Welcoming these interruptions
learning to recognize God in the other,
is the practice of hospitality.
Letting go of our need for control,
understanding,
affection,
security—
learning to grieve the reality we had hoped for
and to make space for the reality that is—
is the practice of generosity.
Then learning to be with the present moment,
in love and in suffering,
is the transforming practice of solidarity.
And this is the way that God has come to us.
Not in splendor and majesty,
but in swaddling clothes and a manger.
The God from whom Adam and Eve
hid in their nakedness
comes to us hidden in the nakedness of a newborn.
God’s radical act of solidarity with the human condition
is not some plan B,
but the intention of God from the beginning,
when God walked with our first parents
in the cool of the evening.
Beloved,
God is coming to us in every interruption
of every day,
like a needy newborn,
sometimes hungry and needing to be fed,
sometimes tired and needing a place to rest,
sometimes soiled needing care.
But sometimes,
just longing to be wrapped up in our arms,
to be embraced in our love.
Babies don’t care what you’ve done,
what you’ve achieved,
how you’ve failed,
or if you have a 5-year plan.
Babies don’t care if the gift didn’t come,
if the cookies burned,
if your pre-lit tree burned out
two days before the holiday,
if your in-laws seemed ungrateful,
if Santa brought you socks again,
or if you’re too sad to feel festive.
Babies just love you
and want to be loved by you.
Sometimes that is going to feel like an interruption.
Sometimes it will feel like a pleasant surprise.
Welcome both like a baby’s cry
and you will have made room,
in your heart and in the world,
for the birth of Christ.
Amen.