How many of you remember middle school?
Or maybe you called it junior high?
Whatever you called it,
I would bet that the majority of you would agree
that middle school sucks.
Your body,
you voice,
your peer group
all start to change.
Your interests start to change.
You struggle to fit in;
in class,
in the lunchroom,
in the hallway,
maybe even in your own family.
Likely,
you experience your first crush,
and that is either exciting
or terrifying,
and maybe both.
You quickly realize
that there is the in-crowd
and the not-the-in-crowd,
and you start calculating your own social capital
based on your proximity to center of that in-crowd.
You are either one of the cool kids,
or you desperately want to be one of those cool kids.
Humans are innately social creatures.
We have a biological,
evolutionary need to belong,
to fit into the society.
We must learn to mimic the patterns of behavior
that grant us access to the in-crowd,
or we risk isolation,
and the perils that come with it.
The Surgeon General recently released a report
naming loneliness
and correlating diseases
as a top threat to public health.
Despite being more connected
to more people
across the world
than we have ever been as a species,
we are more disconnected socially,
isolated emotionally and spiritually,
divided politically,
and literally dying to belong.
Seems like
not much has changed
since middle school.
In our lessons for today,
we hear the stories of many folks
longing to belong
and to define the boundaries
of who is in
and who is out.
Paul is writing to the burgeoning church in Rome,
who are worried about the question of circumcision—
How far exactly
does God expect the Gentiles to go
to prove their belonging?
The circumcised followers of Jesus
want to be the in-crowd,
and they want anyone who wants to be in the in-crowd
to be circumcised too.
I don’t think I need to explain
why circumcision as the obstacle to belonging
is such an obstacle.
You either have the requisite parts
and no explanation is necessary,
or you don’t have the requisite parts
and therefore don’t have the option of belonging,
even at this high a price.
In the Gospel,
Matthew is on the outside as a tax-collector.
He was collecting taxes for an occupying empire,
and was likely inflating those taxes
to enrich himself,
making him a very rich outcast.
The bleeding woman cannot participate in society
even at the reduced status of other women,
because of her condition,
which can cause severe anemia in just seven days.
After 12 years,
she was likely pale and gaunt,
losing her hair,
weak and short of breath.
It’s no wonder she had settled in her mind
for merely reaching the hem of Jesus cloak;
she was likely too weak to follow after him,
to catch him,
or if she had,
to speak up for her needs.
And then
there is the daughter of the leader.
She certainly can’t speak for herself.
She had lost her belonging
to life itself.
And the leader—
what is more isolating than grief?
And what grief is deeper
than the loss of a child?
Like a middle school cafeteria,
we are all longing to be included.
For some of us,
it means closing the circle,
guarding ourselves against exclusion
by setting boundaries,
by requiring conformity.
For the rest of us,
we stand on the outside looking in,
wishing we were like the cool kids,
trying to be something or someone
we aren’t.
We want a system
that requires sacrifice
and not mercy.
We want to believe
that we have earned our seat at the cool table
and we want to believe that—
if we work hard enough—
we can earn a seat at the cool table, too.
Beloved,
I am afraid
that we have treated the Church
like a middle school cafeteria.
We have believed
that because we shared this table with Jesus
that we must be at the cool table,
that we must have earned our seat here
by cleaning up our lives,
by believing all the right things.
But that is not how Jesus decides where to eat.
God didn’t call Abraham
because he was righteous.
God called Abraham
and made him righteous.
Jesus didn’t call Matthew to follow him
because he was faithful.
Jesus called Matthew
and made him faithful.
Jesus didn’t heal the bleeding woman
because she was up to date on her premiums
and had the co-pay.
Jesus healed the bleeding woman,
called her daughter,
and made her whole.
Jesus didn’t raise the leader’s daughter
because she connections
and Jesus saw the value of networking.
Jesus raised the girl
because love is stronger than death.
For too long,
the Church has preached a message
of assimilation
and not accommodation.
We have announced a message
that was more the doctrine of discovery
than the doctrine of mercy.
We have been little better
than middle school bullies,
demanding that those who sit at our table
you must look like us,
dress like us,
speak like us,
act like us.
And in the meantime,
Jesus has gone to sit somewhere else.
Jesus has gone to share the table
with the folks we would least expect.
Jesus has come to build a community
based on solidarity
with the folks not in the in-crowd.
Jesus has moved into the neighborhood
to share the table
with traitors and sinners,
with the sick and the dead.
Jesus has come to share the table
with people who know what it is to be excluded
because some folks in the in-crowd
are a little too interested
in what’s going on with your private parts.
God is Christ
is not calling us to clean up our act,
or to alter our bodies to suit some social criteria,
or to become spiritual Olympians
in order to earn a seat at the cool table.
God in Christ is calling us,
as someone said,
“to stop trying to sit
at the very tables
Jesus is trying to flip.”
God in Christ is calling us
to set the table for traitors and sinners,
for the sick and the dead,
for every gender and sexuality,
for every class and creed.
We must always be asking ourselves,
“Where are the folks
who don’t know there is a place for them
at this table?”
and we must follow Jesus there.
Me must begin to reshape our community
to practice mercy
and not sacrifice.
We must build a community
of such authentic solidarity with our neighbors
that their suffering is our suffering.
We must reorient ourselves
to hear the gospel anew,
calling those inside the Church
to be ever reforming
to meet the needs of those
outside the Church.
We must heal our middle school selves
in ways that will make others whole.
Beloved,
this is the Good News.
Middle school ends.
You are already included.
This table is not for the cool kids,
but for every kid who needs a friend,
who needs to belong,
who needs know that they are loved.
This table is for every kid
who needs folks to stop asking about their private parts
and start worrying if they are safe.
This table is for every kid
who sacrificed and loathed themselves
just to sit at the cool table
but now have found and loved themselves
at the table of mercy.
Beloved,
This table is for you.
Christ has saved you a seat.
Amen.